Lesson learned

Fall in love with someone who can make you proud to be beside him.
A smart, gentle and heart-full man. Who can take all the weight in the world. He doesn't have to be good looking and rich. But fall in love with someone that keep doing things that anyone you know in the world wouldn't. Fall in love with that person because you are so proud of him eventhough you can't say it by words.
And be proud of yourself. Because you are there to support them in their toughest moment. And you are there to cherish the success they got, together. And.. you survived.

Fall in love with someone who can make you a better person.
It doesn't have to be, oh because I met him , now I can save 60% of my earnings! - well, that's a good one also.
But sometimes, it is as simple as, you keep touching your feet on the ground because of things you've experienced with them. You realize that you should do more good things to other people. They make you realize that you should release all the hatred you have inside for other people, even for the world.
You can now see the world from the other side. From other's people eyes. And that makes you more humble. As a human being and a part of the world.

Fall in love with someone who can make you feel good about yourself.
With telling you that you're so beautiful when you wake up in the morning. Or tells you that you're beautiful even when you wear no make up. Or tells you that you have a sexy hips to be looked at when you wear nothing. Tells you that you're an amazing partner because they feel so happy just being with you and by the thing you've done for them.
Fall in love with someone that can makes you realize that you're better than you think. Mentally and physically.

Fall in love with someone who can make you tougher.
When you start to realize that you don't have to fully relay to other people when it comes to your life, you know that you've found the right person. A relationship should not make people weaker because they know there's someone over there to take care of them when they're in their lowest point.
A relationship should make you feel that you are strong enough to not throw shits to other people. But in the other side you know that person will be there to catch you when you fall. And of course, make things better.

Fall in love with someone that can make you realize that we are all human.
And human being should be treated equally. Doesn't matter whether it's woman or men. We have the same rights and (sorry ladies), obligation. All says that woman should be treated like a queen. Don't take this personally, but those things will make a woman less independent. And it shouldn't be the case.
All says that man should be the tougher one. Because he need to take care of every people around him. They said it's human nature. Yes, it is. But we also need to understand that he's a human being too. He needs to be loved and (sometimes) spoiled.

I think that we all need to meet someone once in your lifetime that can teach you all the above. To make you a better person and partner. Even if they teach you in a very painful way.

Another fun part in Digital Academy - Final One!

Yea, I know.
It's been 3 weeks since I got back to Jakarta. But I still haven't share everything about my Digital Academy.
So, I'm gonna share few fun things related to the day-to-day.

1. Friday Drinks Trolley
In order to make people interact with each other, MEC Singapore has this kind of 'program'. So every Friday, one group will run a trolley full of drinks (from Coke to Wine) around the office. Each person can pick one drink that they want to end up their Friday with. Plus.. a small bowl of chips :D
Basically it can be drinks and anything. There's one Friday that this one group serve a drink with waffle and ice cream. Yum yum! :9

2. Google Immersion
Have you watched Google Office video in Youtube? Been there as well :D
Google Singapore office is the regional office for Google SEA market. Fancy office, fully equipped with fun things and fun places (free snack & coffee corner!), and of course.. you can't complaint about technology that they have.
Err.. But from my side, this immersion is the one that's not give any new insight about Google itself (sorry). At least they provided us with free fantastic lunch buffet at that day. The lunch was so good, there no so so food - and I can't believe they served grilled lamb as one of the lunch menu!







3. Seafood Dinner Time
You know, I thought.. All expats in MEC Singapore are not foody. Especially because most of them are came from UK - usually they just eat bread not rice.
But I'm totally wrong. They just like Asian that lost in UK when it comes to food.
So there's one night that we all went out for drinks after office hour. And we continue the free time with having Seafood as our dinner. Chili crab, black pepper crab, frog kung pao (?), egg salted prawn, and yes because most of them can't really drink water, we had red wine as our main drink.
And.. That make me think in the other day, seafood should not come along with alcohol. Trust me.

4. Breakfast Day
And this one come every first Monday in every month. There will be breakfast serve in pantry that everyone can have. Again, this thing being held to make people interact with each other. Usually we will have waffle, bread, pao, coffee, tea and juice that we can grab as much as we want.
Having a little conversation while finishing our breakfast and get back to work after that. Fun!

Finally, these are two persons that help us - me and Ninoy, a lot while we're there.

Jenn and Matt

They are our mentor. Jenn is Ninoy's and Matt is mine.

Time really fly so fast. Right now, Jenn just gave birth for a baby boy and Matt will getting married this December with his fiance. I remember I still talked about the baby that's in her tummy with Jenn 3 weeks ago, and now.. Roman is here, to see the world :')

Digital Academy is one thing that I really grateful that I had it, be a part of it.
Meet new people, learn about different culture, different client, different structure.
You know that I'm a type of person that's pretty scared to try something new. I'm just afraid that things won't work as it should. But I finally can beat that feeling and wrap it up with a nice final presentation.

Thank you for all MEC Singapore people for being such a nice friend and mentor while we're there. Thank you Jenn and Matt for the help and knowledge. Thank you Ben Poole for having us as a participant on this academy.
And thank you Ajay, for choosing me to get involved in this awesome experience.

XO,
Tika

Kamu

Postingan ini terinspirasi oleh buku berjudul Kening.

" Dear kamu,
Kamu tau? Kamu adalah teman setia saya. Teman di dalam suka dan duka. Teman bernyanyi dan berteriak di dalam sebuah kotak berjalan berwarna oranye. Teman bertengkar dan bercerita, juga didalam kotak berjalan berwarna oranye. Teman berkeluh kesah sampai mengeluarkan air mata dan cacian disaat salah satu dari kita melakukan kebodohan. Teman untuk kembali disaat kita sudah tidak punya siapa-siapa lagi disamping kita. Teman yang bisa mengerti perasaan masing-masing hanya dengan melihat sebutir air mengalir keluar dari mata kita. Dan ketika kotak berjalan berwarna oranye sudah tidak ada, kamu tetap menjadi tempat saya untuk kembali. Memperlihatkan senyum dan suasana hati saya yang cerah. Memperlihatkan butiran-butiran air yang keluar dari mata dan mencaci setiap kejadian yang samar.

Dear kamu,
Kamu adalah tempat saya menaruh hati. Menyembuhkan kelabu yang muncul tidak tentu walaupun hanya untuk sesaat. Kamu adalah tempat saya menabung tawa. Kamu adalah teman saya untuk berlari. Tempat saya untuk selalu merasa diterima. Tempat dimana saya bisa merangkai ribuan kata untuk dihantarkan melalui perantara. Kamu tidak pernah terlalu perduli apa yang saya rasakan. Yang kamu tau hanyalah membuat saya merasa nyaman dan tersenyum. Tersenyum melihat kebodohanmu. Tersenyum mendengar cerita-ceritamu. Tersenyum mendengar logatmu. Kamu selalu tau apa yang saya butuhkan saat ini. Keramaian.

Dear kamu,
Kamu adalah salah satu orang yang bisa menarik perhatian saya pada saat pertama kali bertemu. Kamu adalah salah satu orang yang bisa membuat saya tertawa hingga merasa kosong. Membuat saya geram akan kelalaianmu. Membuat saya selalu bertanya akan ketepatan janjimu. Kamu orang yang menarik perhatian saya sejak pertama kali kita berbicara melalui ponsel. Kamu membuat hari-hari saya lebih bersemangat. Lebih ingin memasang banyak tempelan sehingga bisa bertemu dan berbincang denganmu lagi. Kamu menarik perhatian saya. Tapi kamu.. Bukan kamu.

Dear kamu,
kamu adalah sahabat yang bisa mendengarkan segala keluh kesah saya. Kamu memang tidak selalu ada di sisi saya. Kita terpisah jarak. Tapi saya tau, ketika saya sangat membutuhkan kamu, kamu pasti menghadirkan suaramu di telinga saya. Tidak mengeluarkan ungkapan yang membuat saya merasa ada di sudut. Tetapi mendengarkan saya dan membiarkan saya menangis. Kamu mengerti apa yang saya rasakan. Kamu ingin sekali membuat saya berhenti mengeluarkan butiran air dari mata saya. Tapi kamu tau kamu tidak bisa. Jadi kamu hanya membiarkan itu semua keluar. Dan kamu tetap setia mendengarkan. Sampai saya menutup mata untuk mengakhiri hari.

Dear kamu,
Kamu adalah pelengkap hidup saya. Kamu bisa membuat saya yakin dengan apa yang saya jalani. Membuat saya merasa ada penopang di belakang pundak saya. Saya tidak takut akan badai dan angin yang menerpa. Karena saya tau, saya memilikimu sebagai penopang saya. Kamu adalah penyempurna saya. Bukan hanya untuk jiwa saya, tetapi juga untuk raga saya. Kamu adalah penjaga saya. Menjaga saya agar tetap memijakkan kaki saya di bumi ketika saya akan terbang terlalu tinggi. Kamu selalu berhasil membuat saya mengerti akan sesuatu yang sebelumnya sulit untuk saya mengerti. Membuat saya menerima sesuatu yang sebelumnya sulit sekali saya terima. Membuat saya lebih melapangkan dada saya atas segala sesuatu yang sudah terlanjur terjadi. Bersama kamu, saya merasa sempurna. Bukan karena saya, tetapi karena kamu ada disamping saya.

Dear kamu,
Jangan pernah takut akan keberlangsungan harimu. Karena jika kamu lupa dan terlalu sibuk untuk berdoa, doa saya yang akan menjagamu. Saya tidak pernah lupa menyebutkan nama kamu di dalam doa saya setiap harinya. Saya tidak pernah berhenti bersyukur atas kehadiran kamu di hidup saya.

Dear kamu,
Kamu adalah saya. Percaya itu. "